Out of Love

It seems to me that I'm being reminded a lot that "we're doing this out of love". I think it's a phrase I need to learn to accept. I'm pushed a little harder to take new medications....out of love. I'm encouraged to keep going...out of love. I'm persuaded to talk to my doctor...again...out of love. So many things have happened that all remind me how much others love me and care. Yes, there are some days that I think the last reason someone is pushing me along is out of love. How could someone who loves me encourage me to do something that seems near impossible? How could they encourage me to do something when they don't understand how I feel at all. But in reality, when I step back and look, they are truly cheering me on. They can see things from a different point of view. They love me and know what I can become and they know I can conquer this. I just need to remember that it's all out of love. I need to be patient when my friend reminds me to fight back. I need to be patient when my doctor suggests a new medication to try. I need to be patient when my husband asks how I'm really doing then gives me the look because he already knows. They aren't conspiring against me...even though some days it really feels like it...in reality they love me and they want to help me.

I think our Heavenly Father is the same way. Everything He does for us is out of love. Everything He expects of us is out of love. He sees who we can become. He knows where we have been and He knows where we are going. He knows our potential. He understands how we feel and yet he still sees our potential. He loves us so much that He gives us trials, to help us grow and...because He loves us!

Tender Mercies

A couple months ago, I gave a talk on mercy, specifically on the tender mercies of the Lord in our lives. We were short on time so I wasn't able to share one part of my talk. The part I wasn't able to share is how tender mercies play a role in our trials. I really believe that one of the times we will see the largest amount of tender mercies in our lives is during our trials. Looking for tender mercies during our trials can buoy us up and help us through the refiner's fire.

Elder Bednar, in a talk called "The Tender Mercies of the Lord", said

"The Lord's tender mercies do not occur randomly or merely by coincidence. Faithfulness, obedience, and humility, invite tender mercies into our lives, and it is often the Lord's timing that enables us to recognize and treasure these important blessings."

I believe that tender mercies that come during our trials are not a coincidence at all. The fact that I was able to find a better doctor because of a meeting I went to was not a coincidence. It was not a coincidence that I have received phone calls at critical moments of this trial. That texts have come when I've needed them most. That one of my boys has given me a hug without knowing that I really needed one. Tender mercies are all around us!

During one particular difficult night, I woke in the middle of the night with this trial heavy on my mind. As I struggled through I finally climbed out of bed and knelt down. I offered up to Heavenly Father the most fervent prayer of my life. As I did so, I immediately felt peace overcome me. Enough peace to help me through the night. He didn't fix my trial, but he provided me comfort to make my load a little easier. The Lord's timing in that experience showed me that this was a tender mercy sent from the Lord.

It can be so hard to look around us during our trials and see how much the Lord is lifting us up and supporting us. However, if we take the time to do so, our burdens will be lighter. I am so grateful for the tender mercies of the Lord in my life. Noticing those tender mercies has made my burden lighter.

You can do it!

Recently I received a new calling. It's a busy one that will push me outside my comfort zone. The amazing part about this calling is that Heavenly Father has blessed me with a sure knowledge that I can do this calling and that he wants me in this calling. Honestly with how bad some days are it is a wonder to me that I can do anything, let alone take on new responsibilities. Many days I feel like I fail at the responsibilities that I already have, let alone new ones. Heavenly Father knows me so well that he knew I would question some days if I can really do all that is expected of me. He blessed me with a huge tender mercy when, after a very special experience, he left me with a knowledge that he has confidence in me and in what I can accomplish. He trusts me and won't ask me to do more than is possible. It's already not been easy. There have been days when I've needed to get things done and I've had a hard time getting myself to do them. There have been days when I have felt completely overwhelmed with everything in life. However, somehow I've managed to keep going and to do what I've been asked to do. I'm so grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who knows how to lift and strengthen us! A Heavenly Father who reminds me "you can do it"!